Chances are you’ve already heard of it – but if you haven’t, pegging is, in most cases, a sexual act where a straight man is penetrated by a woman wearing a strap-on dildo.
Pegging the question: Why strap-ons are a brilliant way of experiencing sex. The word ‘pegging’ elicits responses of shock and judgement in many, and it might not be for everyone, but as with all sex, it is simply about pleasure.
Pegging has been around since the dawn of time (anything we do, rest assured, the Romans did it first) but it wasn’t until the 1998 release of sexologist Carol Queen’s sex education video series Bend Over Boyfriend that the act was given more attention. But despite its recent surge in pop culture, in part thanks to shows like Broad City and movies like Deadpool, the act still remains largely taboo. Many people still think that if a straight man enjoys being penetrated, it makes him gay (it doesn’t) Anal pleasure for straight men has always been on the “can’t talk about” plane for centuries , partly due to this misguided, patriarchal idea of emasculation, and partly due to an ‘no way! ’ factor. But letting internalised homophobia and gender roles get in the way of mind-blowing orgasms seems a little bit silly, After all, the prostate – the walnut-size gland found under a man’s bladder and easily accessible via the anus – is essentially the male g-spot. A magic pleasure button, if you will. Aside from the intense physical pleasure, one of the best aspects of pegging in a, hetero relationship is that it inverts the traditional framework of gender and sexual roles.
According to a 2012 study published in the journal Sex Roles, clinging to traditional gender roles could make us feel less comfortable between the sheets, and research by sexuality educator Dr. Charlie Glickman also shows that straight men who had tried pegging were more in tune with what their female partner needed from them during penetration. So pegging could not only give men a more intense orgasm, but it could possibly teach them a thing or two on how to pleasure women; basically, a win win. When you think about it, pegging is still standard heterosexual sex because the bottom line, is putting something inside a hole. It simply works the other way around. Indulging in something that is not normal for hetero men helps chip away the stigma, which helps people get over their insecurities about what turns them on.
Talking about all kinds of sex, urges and curiosities is the first step towards a fulfilling sex life, and no one should feel ashamed to discuss their sexual preferences. And because sex should always be a judgement free zone, here, seven straight men share their experience with pegging (anonymously, because society isn’t ready to hear it).
My interest for anal play and pegging didn’t develop until my 30s. During my 20s, I was more interested in having different sexual partners and more ‘traditional’ sex. However, as my relationships started to become more stable, I found that pegging added an extra dimension to my sex life. I was also very curious about prostate stimulation that is mentioned constantly in many sex articles, so this became something I wanted to try.
It’s no different to admitting you having a fetish. Some people are into feet and others like to be spanked or choked and pegging isn’t any different. It might be a bit awkward to talk about at first but if you can’t openly talk to your partner then they’re not meant for you.
It was my ex girlfriend’s idea, she read about it and brought it up with me. I was skeptical at first, but even now that we’re not together anymore, it’s something I do with my new partner. We don’t do it very often but even when we just have regular sex, she’s a lot more assertive, which I think is really hot.
I suffer from erectile dysfunction so the allure of pegging was that it took the focus off the penis. The prostate is basically the male g-spot so it means men who struggle with staying hard can reach orgasm without any penis stimulation at all.
Once I realised how good it felt to have your anus stimulated through rimjobs, it kind of snowballed. My girlfriend and I both started using butt plugs on each other, then we tried vibrators, and then dildos. One day we bought a strap on and never looked back. MORE: SEX How to deal with orgasm anxiety OPINION I was a virgin when I got married and 10 years later I don’t regret a thing Straight people still believe that bisexual women are confused and promiscuous
What I love about it besides the physical sensation, which is awesome, is the power switch. There’s a lot of trust involved in being pegged, you need to have faith that the woman won’t hurt or judge you and there’s a lot of intimacy in that, which can be very powerful. There’s also something to be said about someone wanting to please you like that, it makes you feel desired.
It just feels really good, there’s not much more to it. If your gal is willing to try I recommend going for it, easy as that.